I’ve wondered the same thing. I have no interest in girly things either and i was ridiculed for that. I still get flack about that. I decided that femininity was a sliding scale. I could be a strong woman who had no interest in makeup and wore skirts only in the dead of summer because shorts aren’t office attire. (I always feel like fraud in skirt and heels anyway. Give me shorts and sneakers damn it!) I could shun revealing clothes and wear combat boots. I could still be a girl and read comicbooks, adore action flicks and attend heavy metal concerts. (In those days, I was one of the only girls in the audience.) I could hate romantic comedies and skip chick flicks. I could watch sex in the city once and not understand the appeal. I still don’t get why women like it and I am a woman. I could daydream about being a knight of the roundtable or a superhero and help save the world in an epic battle sequence. I could hang out with my male cousins and play video games, talk about comic books and be totally at ease. I could be one of the guys but i didn’t have to be a guy. I could still be a girl. I just didn’t have to be a girly one. I could be me. If i ever have kids, that’s what I’ll tell them. Like what you like, not what society says you should like. Be who you are not what society says you should be. Be free. Be authentic. Be at peace. I wish that was possible for everyone. It makes my heart hurt to know there are people out there who cant be authentic. I hope they are not always so constrained.