Do Long Distance Relationships Actually Work?
Taking in the information from “Why Long-Distance Relationships Never, Ever Work”, written but Michaelis from the Huffington Post, I firmly believe that long distance relationships can work if people have the dedication to make their relationship succeed, no matter what the circumstances may be. These relationships can be the most demanding and some may not work just like a regular relationship may not but to make such a statement is untrue. In fact I think long distance relationships are made easier by the use of technology in today’s society and more relationships now will succeed than those from the past.
One of the biggest arguments made by Michaelis is that if you live away from each other it isn’t considered a “real” relationship as stated when he said, “long-distance relationships often masquerade as real relationships.” What is a romantic relationship? A romantic relationship is thought to be strong friendship that includes passion, intimacy, and commitment. I believe you can have all three of these values in a long distance relationship even though some may be harder than others to achieve. In fact with the use of Skype, an app that can let you talk and see each other when having a conversation, texting, and other applications it may be the easiest it has ever been to make sure that passion, intimacy, and commitment don’t run low throughout the relationship.
The second argument that was made was that a relationship cannot be “battle-tested” when doing long distance. I disagree with this statement wholeheartedly because there are many “tests” that go on when in a long distance relationship. The hardest one may be the relationship itself due to the near constant question of asking yourself “Is it worth it?” Relationships are always tested, long distance or not, but to think that long distance cannot be “battle-tested” just proves to me that this writer has never been in a long distance relationship and does not know the demand that it can take. Relationships today may even have more problems than before due to the use of media as I have stated in my previous blogs.
Lastly, his final statement is that since the majority of time you are in a long distance relationship you cannot see each other when you finally manage to spend real time with them “…most problems are ignored” concluding that these relationships are “…suspended in a “honeymoon state.” I first want to state that since most of the time you are not able to physically be with each other then you are most likely communicating through different means throughout the day. This means talking about everything problems and all. Also you definitely think about your relationship over and over and you wouldn’t want to waste your time being with someone for years doing long distance than having a relationship with someone in person if you did not think it would work out or had several problems you did not communicate about, it requires full commitment.
In conclusion, I feel as if there are many ways that the writer in the Huffington Post see relationships through one lens when there may be many different perspectives that need to be considered when classifying a romantic relationship. Not all relationships are the same but just because someones significant other may be far does not mean that they can’t hold the same level of fundamental qualities that any relationships has. I can see how this author may not be able to see my point of view due to the many challenges that long distance couples face. Yet I differ and boldly state that long distance relationships can sometimes create a stronger relationship and connection between themselves if not at the very least equal in respect to others.