How Did I End Up Here AGAIN?
When you feel stuck, it doesn’t feel like you have the power and freedom to design and control your life. The great news is you do have the power. Breaking free of the harmful mental patterns that are holding you back will allow you to unlock the potential you have always had.
Recognizing Patterns That No Longer Serve You
The first step to taking back control is recognizing when you fall into an unhealthy pattern continuously. It might show up as feeling disconnected and drained after spending time with a friend, feeling disrespected and unheard in a relationship, or a frequent feeling of dread when you walk into the office that translates into constant caffeinating and snacking.
Don’t Dwell on the Could Have or Should Have
Accept that you’re in an unhealthy pattern, and that you may have had a part in resurrecting it repeatedly. It doesn’t make you any less of a person. Don’t dwell on what you could have or should have done. Concentrate on what you can do right now to move forward and take action.
Stop Pushing Your Feelings Away
Now I know that’s easier said than done. Being in tune with how you feel is not easy in a world where we are constantly encouraged to push down our feelings with more busyness, more working, more caffeine, more alcohol, more smoking, more everything. These temporary mood enhancers help distract you for a little while. But, letting your body and mind experience your feelings and let them run their course is an important step in processing and leaving them behind.
Breaking Patterns That No Longer Serve You
No doubt, changing these deeply rooted patterns is no easy feat. It’s much easier to keep following the familiar and comfortable path. Escaping the pattern is much more difficult because it means taking a conscious and hard look at your own actions and behavior. You may need to confront that you may be responsible for some of your own un-happiness by avoiding confrontation and change.
Communicate Your Feelings & Needs
It may be fully in your power to change the dynamic and break the pattern once you clearly express your feelings, your needs, your boundaries, and what you need to feel better. Not only with others, but with yourself. The more clear and concise you can be, the better.
Confrontation is uncomfortable, but isn’t staying stuck more terrifying?
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