Melody Wilding, LMSW
Executive coach to sensitive high-achievers. Professor. Feat. NYT, NBC, CNN. Get your free copy of The 5-Minute Inner Critic Makeover:


The Sensitive Striver

Your ability to see nuance, uncover patterns, and synthesize data makes you especially suited for strategy. So why doesn’t your boss see it?

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“You need to be more strategic.”

Many of my executive coaching clients have been told this in a performance review. They’re told that if they want to move up into senior leadership, garner more respect and influence, and manage larger teams, then they have to become more skilled at strategic thinking.

As thoughtful Sensitive Strivers, many also find themselves puzzled by this feedback, wondering how they could be a deep thinker but not necessarily a strategic one.

Sensitive Strivers and Strategic Thinking

Because of their sensitivity, Sensitive Strivers process information more intricately. They also tend to be naturally conscientious, highly self-aware, reflective, and intuitive.

On the flip side, their brains are often racing, which can lead to worry, indecision, and doubt. It’s not uncommon for them to over-analyze day-to-day experiences and be so mired in details that they fail to see the bigger picture. …

Winning the day starts before you even sit down at your desk.

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If you’re like me, you have a growing to-do list filled with big ideas to accomplish.

Yet it might often seem like the day quickly gets away from you. Meetings, emails, social media, and other distractions suck up your time, along with your precious attention.

Winning the day begins before you even sit down at your desk.

Thoughtful planning and prioritization is the best way to play defense against the many tasks vying for your focus. …

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Failure is an F word you need to embrace.

Failures aren’t as scary and life-ending as we make them out to be. In fact, there’s gold that can be mined from our slip-ups and setbacks.

That’s easier said than done, so here are a few tips to help you rebound the next time you’re feeling like a failure or down about a mistake or stumble.

How to Rebound from Setbacks

Don’t push away your emotions; embrace them.

Give yourself permission to release any feelings of anger, guilt, or self-blame so that you can move on. Remember, you’re human and bound to have moments when you don’t perform at your best. …

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