Quiz: Should I Move (Abroad) With My Partner?

Would you ever have chosen of your own accord to move to this country? No, there was a list of other countries I would have chosen first. It wasn’t even on my radar.

Would you have planned a trip to go there on holiday? No, it was nowhere on my list of countries I had wanted to visit.

If you don’t speak the local language, how interested would you be in learning it fluently? My interest in learning Russian was about a 4/10. I like learning language a lot and had studied multiple others. I quickly found that the case system and grammar was a beast of its own, however.

Do you plan on working there? If so, will you have the right permission to work there? I completed an online English Teaching Certificate course and found a poorly-paying English teaching company to sponsor a visa for me to head over. So it wasn’t much, but at least I had a job on the table from the start.

Would you be okay working in another career while looking for your dream job or taking a long time to find the right position? I was young and didn’t know what kind of job I wanted to do anyway.

Do you have friends or contacts in this country already? 0

Or do you like meeting new people? Are you up for the challenge of leaving behind your friends and family and making a whole new community for yourself? I was still young and eager to meet new friends and people. I was up for the challenge. Way more than I am now. Older and tired of constantly making new friends and then leaving them behind when I move again.

Would you still want to live in that country if you and your partner broke up? If I had answered this at 22, I would have said that I would have immediately moved to Japan if my partner and I weren’t together.

Do you trust your partner whole-heartedly? Honestly, no. I suspected him of being unfaithful, which is why I wanted to end the long-distance. But I also desperately loved him in the way that makes you lose the capacity for sound judgment.

Is this a move you’re making to “save” the relationship? No, it was a move that I wanted because I wanted a new experience. I wanted to see the world. I wanted the opportunity.

What are your goals? Meet people, have new experiences, find myself, travel.

If, 5 years from now, you’re not with that partner, would you be happy that you took this opportunity to change up your life? Alternatively, if you weren’t with this partner in 5 years, would you consider this choice a deviation from your ultimate path? As having taken you farther from your goals? My goals at 22 were all of the above. By 27, I was no longer dating my ex. But I had gained a world of new experiences, travelled to dozens of countries, and met life-long friends along the way.

Now You:
Would you ever have chosen of your own accord to move to this country?

Would it be on the top of your list of places to plan a holiday?

If you don’t speak the local language, how interested would you be in learning it fluently?

Do you plan on working there? If so, will you have the right permission to work there?

Would you be okay working in another career while looking for your dream job or taking a long time to find the right position?

Do you have friends or contacts in this country already?

Or do you like meeting new people? Are you up for the challenge of leaving behind your friends and family and making a whole new community for yourself?

Would you still want to live in that country if you and your partner broke up?

Do you trust your partner whole-heartedly?

Is this a move you’re making to “save” the relationship?

If, 5 years from now, you’re not with that partner, would you be happy that you took this opportunity to change up your life? Alternatively, if you weren’t with this partner in 5 years, would you consider this choice a deviation from your ultimate path? As having taken you farther from your goals?

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