Psychoanalyzing Rapists and Putting Them under the Microscope Instead of Victims
I am tired of all the inquiries into victims’ psychology. What is far more interesting to me is the perpetrators’ psychology. What are rapists thinking ? What knots were they trying to tie in someone else’s brain ? Sometimes I wonder what it was like to be the first person to “discover rape.” And I don’t mean as a victim, I wonder what it was like to be the first rapist to discover that you could totally break a person down and humiliate them and crush all resistance by violating someone ? How powerful that person must have felt! What a power trip! And what a discovery to make that you could totally crush anyone like a fly, to know that you could raze someone in a space of minutes.
What was it like to find that you could turn all their own immense strength and power against them ? The harder they struggle, the more they try not to feel what you’ve made them feel the tighter the chains get, the more they struggle against and fight themselves. What was it like to harness that incredible power ? What was it like to know that you could enjoy their struggle ?
What was it like to discover that you could totally humiliate someone and make them feel so strongly exactly what they didn’t want to feel ? What was it like to know you could make someone feel that it was their choice to feel something and want something that wasn’t their choice ? What is it like to know that you’re going to sow confusion and perplexity and pain ? They know that they can make someone feel extreme humiliation and that that humiliation will totally break down the victim and raze all resistance.
What is it like to know that you can decimate someone’s mental health ? What is it like to want to do it and plan to do it ? What was it like to be the first person to discover that could decimate someone’s mental health and totally destroy any opponent ? What was it like to make someone resisting you and fighting you feel like they made a choice to love you when they didn’t ? What is it like to carefully calculate to make someone feel pleasure knowing that you will make someone feel like their enjoyment means that they wanted it and deserved it ? They know that women will endless torture themselves over their reactions which the rapists themselves calculatingly created.
Modern day rapists are raping women and they know and are carefully calculating that the women will go home and blame themselves for not following the rape prevention tips perfectly and that that self blame will cause more pain. They know women will feel even more humiliated from this. They know that society will often humiliate women for not having followed the rape prevention tips perfectly and refuse to give them justice. They know that this humiliation and criticism from society will cut down the victims’ ability to resist and lay the blame where it belongs.
What is it like to carefully plan and calculate to torture someone ? What is it like to know exactly what you’re doing that you’re out to destroy someone and cause immense pain and suffering ? What is it like to intentionally try to destroy someone with full awareness of what you’re doing ?
What does it feel like to walk along on the street as a rapist and give, “Rape prevention tips” to women telling women to, “Stay in line, follow the rules for women, don’t get out of your as a woman place, know your place as a woman and what you’re allowed and not allowed to do, we have got you oppressed” ? What’s it like to hint at women, “If you go out and drink you kind of deserve it, if you go out at night you deserve it, if you go out without a male relative you deserve it, it’s really your fault for not knowing and doing better” ? What is it like to give rape prevention tips to women which you are not giving out to other men ? Women have a particular place in the world that they should live in and limit themselves to and men have a different place right ?