Take time to BE SELFISH
Being selfish means that you exist with or without people and things.
Being selfish means that you have an identity that belongs to you and only you. And more importantly, being selfish means that you’re putting your happiness first.
I’ve always thought it rude for someone to demand of you something that doesn’t rest well in your spirit. Even as a child when my parents yelled across the house “make your bed,” “fold your clothes,” and the other mandatory list of requests, I would think to myself, “Just because they want me to do something, doesn’t always mean it’s the right thing for me to do. Don’t I have any input into My Life?” Granted, some things were necessary to groom me into a productable member of society; but the older I got, the wiser I got … and the wiser I get the more I realize what people demand of me because of their own personal desires, and what is for my best interests.
This life lesson was a bumpy road for me spiritually, because I was taught that people should give all of themselves to help someone else. That this was the “Christian Way.” So I constantly let people cross my emotional and spiritual boundaries. Let’s just say when my eyes were opened, my circle got so small I started talking to myself.
From experience I tell you, it’s much more beneficial to concern yourself with improving your character, setting your boundaries and doing what makes you feel good, than it is to concern yourself with filling the requests of those who have placed them on you to make them feel better.
So the next time you are put in the position to do something that you just really don’t want to do think about this. The energy you put into your words and actions matters. By doing things that make you uneasy in spirit you are not only hurting yourself, but you’re hurting the person you’re doing it for as well. When God leads us to do something, we do it with ease. You feel no hesitation in spirit, only maybe in flesh. So if God takes from you that desire to do a thing, he has already taken control of that situation, and apparently, you weren’t meant to be involved. Trust me, I’ve made that mistake before, and the stress that comes with interfering with God’s work is 10-times harder than having that person be upset with you for a spell.
You being selfish to protect your spirit, joy and peace of mind does NOT make you a bad person. Saying “NO” may temporarily make you “Queen Bitch,” but saying no will also give the power back to its rightful owner, You! Aren’t you ready to take your power back? But “what do I know,” right?
Don’t trust me, trust the God in Me. ~ Lady McK ~ The Lightworker
“You are the master of your destiny. You can influence, direct and control your own environment. You can make your life what you want it to be.” — Napoleon Hill
“I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” — John 8:12