January: Monthly Happenings. An Overshared Column.
January was a tough one. I always forget that winter isn’t over just because Christmas is. To get through the blues of the dark, cold, and Omnicom-driven atmosphere I added some routines to my daily life, bought some wintery pick-me-up items (who doesn’t feel better in a pretty outfit?), and realized that writing and reflecting is making me grow.
- Leuchturm Calendar
I don’t know if it’s a good trait or a bad one, but I am addicted to my calendar.
It gives me the stability in life that life doesn’t give me. There is nothing better than the crossing of daily to-do’s. Writing down my morning routine, planning future events, or marking the birthdays of my loved ones. It’s so motivating and such an underrated routine. Writing down the little goals and happenings is incredibly motivating for me.
I love to write down my to-do’s in bed before I wake up in the morning. Set some weekly goals and plan things I am excited about.
It’s such a small purchase but it will stay with you for a whole year. So I urge you to get a good one. There are so many different calendars out there. Don’t get triggered by the cute designs, trendy brands, or colors. The most important part for me is the thickness of the book and the layout of the pages. Leuchturm Calendars come in very different colors, thicknesses, and layouts. I prefer the one-sided calendar, with one spare site a week for to-do’s and notes.
I get the same Calendar (in different colors of course) every year for 4 years and I have been a fan ever since.
Chelsea Boots are hot.
At least that’s what the vegan, mountain, granola girl on Instagram says. Again a purchase that was highly influenced by social media. I’m okay with it. As long as it is one item per month. Maybe I should go on a detox in February. A consume detox. But these Boots are great. I highly urge you to not buy the shoes online. The sizes are weird. The leather is very hard and if you get the wrong size your feet will be full of blisters. But all in all, they are waterproof, warm, chunky, kind of cute, and just very practical. I’m going to buy some brown leather shoe cream so they’ll last a while. I think it’s a stable that doesn’t hurt to have. So if you like to be outside and need a long-lasting, high-quality shoe, I can highly recommend them. My mom bought them 9 years ago and they still look fine.
3. HGW (Hot girl walk)
If more people would move their bodies for emotional value and not body-shaping value, we would all be much happier.
I like to go on runs. But I am a phase runner. I either run every day or not at all. Balance is key, hey? The Hot Girl Walk, quoting one of my favorite Influencers: Audrey Peters, is my new go-to morning thing. I live in Germany so if I have to be somewhere I will most likely ride my bike to get from A to B. It’s faster and more convenient. But lately, it has come to my mind that I don’t spend much time outside, and if I do, it will be mostly dark outside. This is not only bad because I need to breathe some fresh air, but I also need to feel the sun once in a while. So my hot-girl walks are not taking me from A to B, but from sleepy mornings to some pink cheeks from the freezing cold morning air. I like the idea of getting up in the morning and going for a walk, without the focus on fitness or weight loss. If more people would move their bodies for emotional value and not body-shaping value, we would all be much happier.
4. Friendships will remain, even if you don’t face-time every week.
Since I am moving a lot, keeping in touch with old friends is hard sometimes. Especially when you feel like you mentally grow with every move and they just stay in the same place. I recently found out that even though social media can make daily contact extremely accessible, it’s not necessarily for a great relationship. Trusting in Friendships is extremely underrated and not talked about enough. Sometimes I don’t talk to my best friends in over a month. To accomplish that without feeling like your relationship sucks, you have to trust your friendship as much as you would trust your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife. I think we forget that growing up means growing our behavior, in many different ways. Even when you have had a different basis with your BFF when you were 18, your relationship with 24 might just be another way of growing.
Calling my kindergarten friend after 4 weeks of no contact, or seeing my high school friend when I visit my hometown, always shows me that real friendship doesn’t need to gossip 24/7 to stay true. I will have better conversations, more meaningful and more fun ones when there is more to tell. Don’t shy away and start where you have left.
If the bond is true, it will always remain.
I suck at making my own decisions. It’s not that I am not confident, I am. But I love to tell people my stories, hear their views, their thoughts, and opinions on my life. Which made me realize that I suck at making the smallest choices on my own. Therefore this needs to change. Maybe it comes from my mom. I love her to bits, but she would comment on every outfit I wear, story I tell, or men I’d date. Which must have influenced me more than I would like to admit. So my New Years Resolutions will be making my own choices. I will no longer send any pics out of changing rooms. I will date who I want to date. Work out if I want to without thinking of anybody I want to do it for. And I will stop doing anything only to impress a guy, especially my ex.
But a little besties conference about the latest gossip won’t hurt anybody.
6. Pant Suit
The Zara Sale was a bit too tempting to fully ignore. I am currently doing an internship. I get dressed up a little every morning but I struggle to find some good pants that don’t look too sluggish, make me look good, and still allow me to move and run around without being uncomfortable. I hate these boring, office-girl suit pants and I don’t think they would look very flattering on me. But let me tell you. Finding some good work pants is like owning a new workout gear. You just perform better.
And I do so, in my newly purchased creased, Bordeaux-colored, slightly flared, straight leg, high-waisted pantsuit. I can basically throw over any knit sweater and some nice earrings and I look dressed up, stylish and I might add, very hot too.
7. Losing my Airpods. A forced dopamine Detox.
It was nice while it lasted, right? I knew this date would come and I feared him ever since. I owned Airpods for one year. Live without them is different, let me tell you.
I did not accomplish a full-on dopamine detox and I wasn’t trying to, but I guess I got somewhere near that. A dopamine Detox is a way of cutting out all the ‘Fake’ dopamine you get from technology, mostly social media. Today’s algorithms are created to bring you the most individual joy and ‘dopamine’ possible. This gets you addicted to the app/algorithm so you spend more time on it. A dopamine detox is an act against an addiction that can harm you in many ways. This includes social media, listening to music, gaming, avoiding porn, and anything really that highly stimulates your brain.
So losing my AirPods was hard and I will probably replace them soon. But riding my bike, waking up in the morning, working out, and going for a walk without listening to music was actually very grounding and more of a challenge than I’d expect. It was a great reminder of how I never sit, walk or talk in stillness. I don’t say it’s bad or it’s good, but it is definitely something we should allow more often.
To give our brain a little rest in this busy life.
I am an Emma Chamberlin fan. I am not obsessed with her, but she is the only Youtuber I follow regularly. Her new go-to coffee is a Cortado. A Spanish coffee specialty she found out about in Paris. It’s a 1:1 mixture, meaning 1 espresso shot with the same amount of milk. I love a good espresso and a Cappucino can be a bit too milky for my taste, so I thought I should give it a go. So I went to the nearest fancy barista bar where I paid 4.50€ for a shot of espresso with a shot of milk. I hate when they let you pay extra for your plant milk. But I guess being a material girl comes with its prices. I didn’t like it. I think I either need to start drinking more coffee or get older so I can fully enjoy the taste of black coffee. Which you should if you want to enjoy a Cortado.
For now, I am going with a Flat white.