Great article :) I’m 23 and have been in 3 long term relationships, used to go from one to the next with only smallish gaps in between. I have now started to understand that good sex doesn’t automatically = relationship material and have been poly for last year and a half with no intention of getting back into a relationship. Knowing that distinction has really helped me to enjoy time with people i have the ‘spark’ with, without feeling the need to progress to a relationship! Last week I met for the first time since being single someone who was beyond just the spark and was compatible with what I wanted in a long-term partner — learning to wait is a great life lesson I have discovered. Thanks for the post!