Creating a Meaningful Life

I won’t be talking on inspirational startup story of mine. I don’t want to fall for the cliche of finding the meaning of the life, I can’t tell it for anyone except myself. This is going to be about being existed, life from my very own eyes and the flow of ideas about life, death and eternity.

My first question: Do you remember when you were 10 years old? Do you remember the first day of your school? Do you remember your first concert? I am not gonna ask if you know your mom’s maiden name as if these are some security questions. Just think about the time. It passes way too fast, it’s almost telling us catch me if you can. But I think the perception of the time depends on our feelings at that moment even though it feels like ages at that moment, time passes too fast when you visit your memories. Sometimes it even feels like the time freezes. It is the time that creates all of the illusion about the beginnings and the ends. I think, time is the reason why we cannot comprehend the concept of infinity. Is it possible to live forever? Physically no, even Rothschild couldn’t do it. But it is possible to live forever. First let’s see the steps in the life. I saw this infographic today and I really liked it:

This might be a resemble of the life of many people. When the time comes for you to go, what will you do? I think if you will think that it is wasted, that is a shame. There will be regrets for sure. There will be the happy moments or there will be the moments with grief. It would be great if you know what you want but if you don’t it is still fine. You can still love your life and avoid this feeling of wasted life.

Being Good

The world is not fair. It is always about the math, it is about the costs and the profits. But I am not talking money-wise. It is going to be even a bigger cliche, but it is about sharing and caring, and about being good. When you do something beneficial for someone else, how do you feel? I feel great and happy. I am not talking about making a donation but way more simple things like calling your grandma, asking her how she’s doing and see how happy she is when she receives a call from you because she is remembered. Or I am talking about going to the doctor with your friend because she needs someone at that moment. For me, I enjoy helping, I enjoy being there for the people I care and love. If this is the case, maybe we need to put them in our priorities and make them feel it. On the other hand, there are other things like altruism or semi-altruism.

Altruism: Altruism is when we act to promote someone else’s welfare, even at a risk or cost to ourselves. Though some believe that humans are fundamentally self-interested, recent research suggests otherwise: Studies have found that people’s first impulse is to cooperate rather than compete; that toddlers spontaneously help people in need out of a genuine concern for their welfare; and that even non-human primates display altruism.

A component of altruism is the empathy. Being able to understand the other person’s situation and being able to think from her/his perspective. I think I am able to do empathy. I am really thankful for all of the opportunities I have. However sometimes I can’t help myself thinking on what if I have never had them. It draws me to another place, which convinces me that all of the human beings deserve the same or similar conditions such that we can leverage the society. Not everyone will choose to create a value I know. But what if there is a girl out there in a village who is willing to learn but forced to get married and has no chance to escape? I know even more cliche. But there are still girls like that and I want to help them. I have had this will since I was 10 or so. I was writing on my diary about the education system and the unfair conditions for the people back then. I was convinced for several years that I need a lot of money to create social impact on education. But now, no, it is not about waiting, it is about acting and it is about doing what you believe in. So why not starting to change the world now rather than a few decades later? I think helping others will make the self happy as well and contribute to the “meaning of the life”. It might be the key to the eternity as well.

It is about being bold and motivated. If you want to have a meaningful life, my formula is this:

  1. Find the person you love and you are loved, this will create a happiness.
  2. Communicate with the people you care, make them your priorities. It is sometimes about conscience but it is good. People need interaction, show them you are there for them and they will be there for you. Don’t break their hearts.
  3. Sharing is caring. Don’t be selfish. Sometimes you might feeling like you are in a zoo of egos and continuously you are feeding them. You gotta feed some egos. But think about changing someone’s life and making her dreams come true or encourage.
  4. Whenever you have questions with the flow of your life, just write it down. Write down your problems and your potential solutions. Even if you don’t have solutions it will help you to overcome your problem. Everything in the life is temporary and we cannot know if something bad will lead to a even worse outcome or a better outcome. We can only live in the moment, recall memories and cannot predict the future with 100% certainty.
  5. Don’t mind the regrets as long as they are your choices. Nobody is perfect. Bad things happen to everyone it is all about how you stress them and cope with them.
  6. Work on something that you don’t realise how the time pass. You will be good at it.

That’s all folks!

****I am saluting my favourite author and existentialist Jean Paul Sartre for making me exhaust the life. ****

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