It’s official. I no longer believe in the concept of a lack of motivation. By definition, a person is motivated if they have a reason to do something. Therefore, if one has a reason, they are motivated. How then can a person lack motivation? They can’t. …

Therapists ask the silliest of questions sometimes. “You want your boyfriend to be more attentive and less dismissive of you, but have you straight out asked for that?” My client (let’s call her Charleen) responded with, “Of course I have!” So, as good therapists do, I put on my detective…

Football-Style Anxiety-Reducing Help for Challenging Relationships “My mother-in-law is coming to town and she drives me nuts!” My counseling client (I’ll call her Mary) was dreading the annual visit. The truth is, my client loves her mother-in-law, it’s just that the woman is pushy, controlling, and opinionated. She just is…

Quick and easy distress tolerance skill There is no cure for ice cream brain freeze so it’s a good thing it doesn’t last more than a few seconds! You’ve experienced brain freeze and everyone else who’s had those moments of intense discomfort (at least as far as I know) has…