I’m not particularly sure what the complaint is. You’re fat because you ate too much. Sure, you might have some genetic predisposition to storing more fat than other people, but you’re an adult and you should know that your habit of eating too much put you in this predicament that you are now writing about in terms of how you feel and how you think other people should view you or use language towards you. Then you slather on a heaping mound of “I grew up queer… and words didn’t mesh with my feels…”
What is the point of this guilt trip article? You want a cookie for your tribulations? A gold star perhaps that you have adversity in the one life you have and choose to wallow in some high-minded form of victimization because of your plight with food and gender/sexual identity issues? Come on.