I feel like if there’s a registry, you’re in the clear buying anything on it, even if it is an orphan piece of a set or a specific gadgety thing. They put together the registry so people would know they were getting the couple things that will be wanted and used.

From the other side, we deliberately didn’t set up a registry, because we’re not just getting started establishing a household. I’ve lived on my own since 2005 and Husband-elect moved in back in 2010 — it’s established.

We’ve started getting registry questions, though, and while I’m not quite on board with Husband-elect’s mom’s suggestion of “have people come to your house and take things away because you have too much stuff”(although I did inherit things 10 years ago when the parents moved to Australia, AND I’m an avid thrifter, so she’s not completely wrong), I also genuinely do not feel like people need to buy us things.

Come join us, drink booze and eat tacos, and that is gift enough! For real! I mean it!

Don’t ask me, a 34 year old woman whose hobby/superpower is bargain shopping, to cause our friends and family to buy things at full price, because that is a travesty.