How to Develop Self Confidence?

Those with self confidence and high sense of self worth achieve those qualities with either a great deal of external affirmation or developing internal affirmation. Of the 2 internal affirmation is likely to be more lasting as it is less reliant on others.

How to develop an internal sense of confidence?

Few are they who possess the ability, confidence and knowledge of the simple gestures of respect for others. They may fell considerate, but few truly know how to be considerate or act accordingly. For the most part humans are preoccupied by personal perceived challenges — sense of self. The tendency to think of self before thinking of others influences patterns of behavior — habits.

Over 90 years ago Dale Carnegie wrote, How to Win Friends and Influence People. For a very long time it was the best selling book in the world second only to the Bible. Mr. Carnegie’s advice was not how to manipulate people, it was the “How To s” of simple gestures and positive patterns of behavior that demonstrated consideration for others. The things other people valued above all — respect — sense of importance.

Readers were astonished by the simply science. Practices that provided comforting assurance that produced a sense of confidence, which resulted from simple polite gestures. They could see and feel positive results associated with their application of Mr. Carnegie’s advice. You didn’t need to be a genius, posses advanced command of vocabulary or hold gifted advantages to comprehend or put into practice Mr. Carnegie’s advice.

I purchased my first copy 30 years ago. I continue to keep a copy on my desk and re-read one chapter first thing every day. I attempt to apply the principle of that chapter throughout the day. Funny thing about positive patterns of behavior — they drift from view when not regularly employed.

A young man went west, seeking opportunity. Seeing a sign: “Lumberjacks Wanted,” he applied for the job. The line boss informed him that his compensation was tied to the number of trees he cut down.

Blessed with physical attributes and attitude, ax in hand, he proved able to drop seven trees in one day, matching any of the “most experienced” lumberjacks in camp. He was excited by this newfound opportunity.

However, on the following day he dropped only six trees. At the end of the next day he approached the foreman for advice, as his labors that day produced but four trees brought to the ground.

The foreman accompanied the lumberjack the following morning to observe. Sitting close by on a stump, the foreman watched as the lumberjack exhausted all effort to drop the tree.

Finally, the tree fell. Leaning over, hands on his knees and gasping for breath, the lumberjack asked the foreman if he had observed a deficiency in form.

The foreman nodded without speaking and stood erect. He reached in his hip pocket and pulled out a small flat “whetting stone,” which he tossed to the lumberjack.

Turning away, he shouted over his shoulder, “Sharpen your Ax.”

Confidence is often the belief that we posses a trait, characteristic or an ability that is rare.

What is rarer than well mannered behavior, simple gestures of consideration for others?