Published inForgeIf You Want to Help Others, You Must Learn to Say ‘No’To be there for other people, we can’t abdicate our agencyJun 17, 20207Jun 17, 20207
Gather Your WomenMy dear friend, Courtney Martin, and I wrote this piece together.May 6, 2020May 6, 2020
Lessons From Bees“we must be very strong / and love each other / in order to go on living” — Audre Lorde, EquinoxMar 19, 20201Mar 19, 20201
Uterus Support: A letter to my some of my dudesYesterday, I sent this to many of the cishet-ish men I know. One of them (thanks, Mordecai!) asked me to make it a Medium post so he could…May 17, 20192May 17, 20192
Published inFamily StorySeparating Romance and Parenting“I remember having conversations in college about how many kids I wanted and how I wanted to start having kids before I was 30. It was a…Jan 19, 2018Jan 19, 2018
Published inFamily StoryThere were these constant reminders, ‘You’re not a family.’“Family, kids, marriage is my top priority,” shares Sammi, a 20-year old college student. “All I want are kids. I want a career too. I’m…Dec 1, 2017Dec 1, 2017
It’s going to be complicated; it’s going to have moments of real depth and beautyWhen Mariana invited Toni for drinks, she was looking forward to simply catching up with the younger sister she helped raise, but ended up…Oct 6, 2017Oct 6, 2017
Published inFamily StoryHe should stay here; we’ll be his parents.Anthony and his wife Mariana met in graduate school while pursuing their Masters of Fine Arts. After graduating, they moved to Oakland…Sep 15, 2017Sep 15, 2017
Published inFamily StoryRaising your dead friend’s childBorn into a big military family — the third of seven children — and caring for her household and younger siblings by the age of nine…Sep 7, 2017Sep 7, 2017
Published inFamily StoryBabies coming through: Co-parenting foster kids with your momIt is not unusual for an older child to help care for younger siblings. When the adults in a household are outnumbered by children, the…Aug 17, 2017Aug 17, 2017
