Tinder & the Millennial Generation
Young adults are stuck in a generation where chivalry and romance are dead, you meet the love of your life online, and self-esteem is based on how many “right- swipes” you receive- this phenomena is greatly in part to the millennial generation’s use of social media.
. Tinder is an online dating app that allows you to swipe right, indicating you are interested in a person, or swipe left, indicating that you are not. However, interest is based solely on physical attractiveness. The app allows for one main profile picture to be displayed for potential matches to see. When two people mutually “swipe right” on one another’s profile, they “match”. This give them the opportunity to message each other. However, Tinder messages typically consist of inappropriate, corny, pick up lines.
. “With the ability to just keep swiping through thousands of singles or always wondering if tomorrow you’ll be matched with the perfect person, you do yourself and anyone you’ve started communicating with or had dates with a disservice. You aren’t really putting the energy you would have otherwise into getting to know someone and seeing if they are someone you could foster a relationship with. With so many people to choose from, like at a buffet, you take a little bit of everything because you’re greedy and you don’t want to miss out. Unfortunately, this just means you’re not ever really able to appreciate any one item, and nobody ever stops at the one item they discover they love because they have to see if anything else is better. By the time you get through it all and want to go back to that one you want to keep eating, you’re too full or there’s none left. With so many other singles/potential mates opened up to you, it’s easy to just stop communicating and ruling people out and always being on the lookout for someone better.” (Smart Snobs, 2013)
. Millennials are being taught that these rather shallow ways of looking for significant others is acceptable. Tinder, amongst many other social media sites, is teaching young people to value themselves on as much as attention they get online. Social media expert, Erin E. Hollenbaugh, PhD., says, “…With Tinder, you get those ‘swipe-right’s that kind of give you that sense of ‘I have value’ and ‘I have worth’, and I think that’s probably one of the more problematic things about Tinder”.
. Millennials need to be aware of the standards that they are creating for one another and for future generations to come. If ‘hook-ups’ are taking the place of relationships, interest is based solely on physical appearance, and self-worth is determined by ‘right-swipes’, then relationships for millennials will only be negatively impacted from here on out.