I’ve Hit a Solo Plateau, I Need a Team —
My Glamping Experience & More
“I’m not an outdoor person, so I don’t think that camping stuff is for me.” Y’all — me either! I told the life coach that I’m starting with, “I’ve gotten myself as far as I can go, I need a team for the life I am on the brink of.”
So, I’ve been doing things I’ve never done to get results I’ve not gotten. Spending time in nature is not something I’d grown up doing or am accustomed to, but I realize how healing nature…
I Sometimes Lie to My Therapist
I don’t want him to know how bad the depression got this time. I don’t want him to think I’m not growing. I don’t want him to see how badly I sometimes talk to myself. I want him to like me. I want him to see me as “good.”
Me: Yesterday was really hard for me. Really, really hard.
Him: Tell me what was hard.
Me: I couldn’t get out of bed. I couldn’t bring myself to shower. I could barely get up to pee.
Him: What was that like? Drop in.
Releasing & Healing: I Dated a Woman for 5 Years
It’s national coming out day, but I believe it’s a day to call others in… into a world that may be different from the one in which they live.
I met a woman over seven years ago and we dated for about 5. When she approached me, I hadn’t realized how much I wanted her. I’d never dated a woman before. I’d never been in a same sex relationship. And yet I’d never wanted to be with another human as much as I wanted to be with her.
Unlearning What My Bullies Told Me
What were you teased for as a kid? What else was happening in your life that the people who teased you knew nothing about?
Starting at age ten, I was being teased for being dark skinned, having parents who had an addiction disorder, and for being poor.
The teasing mostly came from the boys in my class who said things like:
Curate the Home Experience and Energy you WANT: 5 Tips
If you know anything about me, I have intentionally decided to curate a life I love.
I grew up in Chicago. On the south side. We lived in three different sets of projects, (Robert Taylors, Washington Park, and Altgeld Gardens) each of which I resented more than the one before. There were 6 of us. 4 kids. 2 adults. And usually 3 bedrooms.
My sister and I shared a bed until I was about 16, then we got bunk beds. Nothing was ever mine — my money would mysteriously be…
I’m Finally Ready to Talk About Why I Quit My Solo Trip
How A 1 Year Trip turned into 3 months By Mia Dunlap
5. Survivor’s Guilt: my grandma’s last words to me before I left were, “how you got money to travel but not to send your damn family?” Yeah, that’s right, how could I? I was an imposter… and selfish for thinking it was ok to take a sabbatical from a near 6 figure role to just travel. So while away, I couldn’t get that voice out of my head. She recently passed. …
What I’ve Learned After Leaving The Church
By Mia Dunlap
My parents didn’t go to church. I started going on my own with my best friend and her family when I was 10. I loved it because I was away from home for hours and hours! Every Tuesday for choir rehearsal, Wednesday night for bible study, and early Sunday morning in time for Sunday school and I prayed we had an afternoon service!
My mom resented me and my dad didn’t see me. I was alone. At home and in the world. When I invited them to church, my mom…
5 Consequences of Being an Adult Child of Addicts
By Mia Dunlap
It would be easier not to write about it. Easier not to share. Easier to pretend like it didn’t have an impact. But why do easy when I can be do vulnerability? Why do easy when I can choose to expose and remind someone that they are not alone… and to remind myself, I don’t have to hide from ME.
Dear Brown Girls Who were Sexually Abused
by Mia Dunlap
Dear Brown Girls,
I failed you. When I kept quiet about the times my cousins touched me because we were playing “house” and I was the mother even though I was 6 (7 and 8) and they were 13–17. I failed you when I waited 20 years before I told my mom. And when I was 13, the 27 year old drug dealer lured me into his car, making me think it was my choice because he asked and I said yes — I was silent for 12 years to…
I Wish School Taught Us to Live WHOLE Lives
By Mia Dunlap
Who said schools needed to be limited to the academic needs of students? Is there a separate school for life skills? How powerful would it be if schools focused on teaching and being models for students of wholeness?
What if schools taught me..
To Love My Body As it Is Now:
I undressed in front of my full length mirror and grabbed my belly saying, “I wish I could cuff you off and start off”… then I went on to suck it in and turn from side to…
Narrative Writer & Healing Artist The Audacity to curate a life you love