You write a thoughtful essay, Elizabeth, but it leaves me troubled. You keep repeating we think this or we do that, we enable this or that track of narcissism. What you are calling we is not me. And I really do not think it is most of us. I did not enable that guy or facilitate in any way what he did. Then you seem to blame political neo-liberalism for his murderous rage. I have no neo-liberal power and am fully aware of how small I am. Why should I deserve the blame you seem to cast on us all?
I think you still have not answered the question why. Where does this narcissism come from? It does not live in most of us. And the more important question, what can we do about it?