I resonated with this. Growing up religious, I knew nothing other than what I was taught, which was mainstream Christianity. It never had an effect on my life, other than producing guilt and shame. And standing on the other side now as a spiritually inquiring atheist (i.e., not believing in a deity, but wanting to grow in and understand the connection between all of us and everything) who wants to live life fully, the religion I grew up with looks so powerless to help me to that. I’d say guilt and shame are good motivators, but honestly they’re probably more like strong shackles.