But it isn’t free of personal responsibility! That’s just it, they are going around assigning responsibility willy-nilly.
I read an interesting case from Britain last year where a (black, feminist, lesbian) political activity was publicly shamed and forced into paroxysms of self-criticism and abject apology after having (in some unspecified way) exceeded her girlfriend’s boundaries while blackout drunk.
Nobody except me seem to notice that if the activist had been the one to complain first, instead of the girlfriend, it would have been the girlfriend being publicly shamed—for taking advantage of someone obviously incapable of consenting. Apparently she just didn’t think of it, or lost the race to the courthouse of public opinion.
How could the OP’s long-suffering boyfriend possibly have avoided blame in this situation? He is clearly from the same socio-political set as the OP, but he made the terribly unwise decision to be born male (and probably white!) so he was doomed from the word “go”.
Do these activists just not think these things through? Do they not realize that the auto-de-fe they are start might very well claim them as victims? Or do they think the self-sacrifice will be worth it?
“Two gin-scented tears trickled down the sides of his nose. But it was all right, everything was all right, the struggle was finished. He had won the victory over himself. He loved Big Brother.”