I was surprised to read that you don’t like to be told that you are hot. May I ask: is it a matter of context? If I were to say that to a woman, I would think it goes without saying that I am turned on by her. But that isn’t just a matter of looks; that’s really the least important thing. And (the context part) it’s not something I would just walk up and say to a stranger. Is it in such a context that you find it objectionable? Or does it make you feel uncomfortable even when said by a man you’ve actually gotten to know?

I have no shame about feeling sexual attraction to fat women. And no, it’s not a fetish — I can be just as attracted to thin and average-sized women. Fat women can be just as intelligent, witty, sexually eager, and skilled at pleasing a partner as thin women. But more than that: sex is a tactile pleasure. So what’s not to like about pressing up against a soft, comfy body?