Several nights ago I came home to find my roommate having her quarter-life crisis. This is something most of us can relate to, when we question our job, our existence, why it’s so hard to find something we enjoy, and if there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Lots of people seem to find their dream jobs. Maybe it’s instagram and social media feeding us a reality that isn’t true, but in some cases I think it is. Some people find their niche, or start a business that they are passionate about. But what about the rest of us?
According to the Gallup organization nearly 70% of employees are actively disengaged (Forbes, 2018). Everyone is job hopping, hoping that the next position, or next big company, or next great start-up will fill that void in them that doesn’t seem to ever go away.
I studied Speech Pathology in college. I have been in the the restaurant industry, sales, CS, healthcare, cannabis, and have had a wide range of roles. In every one of these I have felt moments of happiness and found certain things I’ve liked. Usually this ends once I realize I can’t compete with the politics of an organization or a male boss tells me that I’m lucky to be there. How do people do this for their whole lives? It seems almost unbearable now and I can’t imagine how I will feel in ten years if I don’t figure it out.
But how do I figure it out? Do I keep trying to figure out what I want to do? It seems easy but I know who I am at this point. I know what hobbies I enjoy. I am very into fitness, music, reading, culture, traveling… and many more things. Those things are all amazing but none of them say “I CAN BE YOUR CAREER.”
I’m not sure what my point is. I think it’s just a simple question. How do we get there? How do we figure out a way to be happy if we don’t have a specific niche, or a dream. How do we find something that we can do and still be satisfied and enjoy the things we love?
I wonder this and then I have moments of guilt. I am healthy (for the most part) I live in a beautiful city and having amazing friends and relationships. The only thing causing my dissatisfaction is my job and saying it out loud often feels like a compliant.
I wish that social media focused more on the journey sometimes. We are constantly told to grow more, work harder, figure out our passions.. without much direction. If I read one more self-help book that tells me to meditate… well… meditating is great but I don’t think that’s the issue.
I’m going to keep trying to figure this out and if someone has the answer… please let me know.