Beauty Cannot be Standardized so Stop Trying to Put People in a Box

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Who decides what is beautiful, if beauty is in the eye of the beholder? Society socially constructed beauty and over time that social construct has changed in many ways. There was a time period when being large was a representation of vigor and prosperity.

Then the diet industry showed up to the party and things have never been the same since. Dieting is a billion dollar industry and a billion dollar business only wants one thing: to continue to make money hand-over-fist.

It is their job to sell you an unattainable image of beauty. This ensures they remain a billion dollar industry. The term “beauty,” is a subjective term. What is beautiful to one, may not be beautiful to another. Nevertheless, society will tell you that there is a set standard to beauty. Especially for women. This includes the notion that women should have:

  • Long Flowing Hair
  • A Small Waist to Hip Circumference
  • Tiny Feet
  • Large Breasts
  • Round Booty
  • Be Thin and Embody the “Ideal” Body Weight

These standards have been developed over time and are entrenched in a patriarchal perspective. Constant bombardment with these beliefs via media images often leads to women engaging in negative self-talk when they cannot live up to these narrow beauty standards.

In an article published by the New York Times, it is noted that women who engage in negative self-talk, are prone to poorer health than women who in engage in positive self-talk. This includes beating oneself up for not sticking to a diet or eating plan. Negative self-talk of this nature often leads to emotional eating.

Self-compassion and a sense of worthiness are vital to one’s freedom from negative self-talk. Give yourself a pass and understand that you have imperfections. This may potentially lighten your mental load and is possibly the first step towards self-love, self-actualization, and self-acceptance.


Brown, B. (2010). The gifts of imperfection: let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are. Center City, MN: Hazelden.

Parker-Pope, T. (2011, February 28). Go Easy on Yourself, a New Wave of Research Urges. The New York Times. Retrieved January 09, 2017, from…/go-easy-on-yourself-a-new…/…