This piece affected me very much. Lost my wife 4–1/2 years ago in circumstances remarkably similar to Steve’s death. I’ve given up trying to describe to people what this kind of grief is like. The best I could do was to say that the difference between “normal” grief and this is not one of intensity or degree; they are two completely different, non-overlapping phenomena, like the difference between classical physics and quantum physics. Thank you for sharing, and for providing the best expression I have seen yet to describe what we have both been through. All the best to you.