I am a helper and like to serve others. But, I want to be happy in the process. I want to love who I am and what I do. I want my life to have purpose and significance and I would like to have financial freedom to do whatever I want for the rest of my life with no concern about paying rent or my sky-rocketing monthly insurance premium that has a $7,500 deductible with no c0-pay and no coverage for the services I actually use.
I am selfish by definition because I am working day in and day out for me. I am figuring myself out. What is my calling, what are my gifts, talents and strengths? What was I meant to do? What will generate income so I can work from a hammock with my laptop like all of those 25 year old Instagrammers who drive Maybachs and wear nice watches. If they can do it, why can’t I?
My journey is all about me. I am okay with this because my journey involves you. I am a helper. I figure things out. I see solutions before people know they have a problem. I did not have this clarity two years ago. I figured this out by doing things for myself. Being selfish. I made an online course to see if I had the ability to teach. I joined Facebook groups to see if I could interact with others and solve problems. I wrote articles to see if I could communicate my thoughts, I took Instagram photos to learn if I create things people liked to look at and I started a podcast to find my voice. The more proud and accepting I am of myself, the more valuable I become to you.
The marketing gurus instruct me to use proper keywords and terminology that mask the fact that I am in this for myself and that I do everything for you and my tribe and ask nothing in return. We all know that is not the case and once you are okay with the fact, the true definition of authenticity is revealed. I do not need to tell you that I am genuine or authentic if I am. You are smarter than that and will see for yourself so long as I am. My authenticity comes from the fact that I do things with intention and purpose. My purpose is to serve others and myself. It is okay to do both.
I am selfish because I do want to make a difference in the world and I do want to help as many people as I can, but it starts with helping me and making sure that I have clarity of myself and my dreams and goals. I create things that seem random to others, but it is all for me to find the crossroads between what I love to do and what you need. That by definition is my calling. I am learning and listening for my genius because there is someone who will be helped or inspired or motivated by it once I embrace what makes me me and what I can do for you what nobody else can.
My selfish path of discovery is paved with good intentions and yours probably is too. It’s okay to want a good life for yourself. The people you are helping want the same thing. Be okay with that. I am. Cheers.
My name is Mike Murphy, I’m a one man band and podcaster.
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