The part of your piece that really resonates with me is ‘consent and enthusiastic consent’.
Maureen Orman

Please tell us how many people in your life you feel beholden to enough to have sex with just because they ask? Please tell us what in you makes you willing to say “ gee you were nice to me so I guess I owe you a shag” ? Even more so, tell us how it is the fault of guys that your view is that sex is an appropriate medium for paying back an obligation you feel?

Frankly if your self-esteem is that low, it was built into you by your parents, not the guys you are meeting today.