you write very well about your experience and perception. As an out person, does it really matter to you what some stranger knows or does not know about you? For me it doesn’t as no one can harm me unless I allow it.
Only you can answer that to yourself and for yourself, but honestly is the acceptance of strangers so important to you that if they find out you are a lesbian, and do not like it, that you will emotionally crumble in some way?
Physical safety issues aside, does their opinion matter? If their opinion won’t change who you are, then to my mind their opinion does not matter.
Good luck with it all