Two things strike me about the situation you are talking about. 1) you seem to prefer that people ‘assume’ you just couldn’t have kids even though you disdain what you feel is the pity they would have for you then. 2) you need a new group of friends.

We, those outside of the you that is you, don’t know why you don’t have kids. We only know what you present, what you say, how you act in front of us. That along with any societal bias we might have might just lead some insensitive lout to make assumptions about your situation and speak them aloud.

You however, seem to insist that people are doing you intentional harm basing their responses on what you say or don’t say about having kids. In that you and you alone are culpable.

You are human and that means like all humans you make judgements about people, often with no facts about them at all. Yet you complain others do the same to you. I find that sad and loaded with self-pity. An attempt to portray “victim-hood” at the hands of those “evil others”.

I cannot fix the reasons you do not have kids, but millions are awaiting to be adopted. Try that instead of a pity party.