I have mixed thoughts about what you have written. I am a male, in my 30's have maintained a good physique all my life. Several times in my life I’ve even reached competition level physique. I am in essence built from the opposite body morphology.

But I will say this. It’s not all my genetics. My three brothers are all “skinny fat.” Little legs, scrawny arms and a pot belly. I look the way I do because I was an ectomorph growing up. And I began serious weight training at 22. My body could have gone either way.

But what if I hadn’t been an ectomorph? (The skinny kid who can’t put on muscle or fat not matter what). What if I had been an endomorph and my parents had made sugar filled cereal and potato chips available as a kid? What if X-Box existed when I was at that age?

Honestly the point you make that I agree with 100% is that this is where, and what you are. I look at obese children and think “they will never be able to be in shape.” Genetics are partially hard programmed, but maybe a touch malleable. Take a child with a propensity for obesity and feed them sweets all day and you have made them fat for life.

I think it’s important for people to know that the fat person they look at may have been that way long before adulthood. If so, they aren’t fat because they lack self discipline, or desire, or knowledge. They are fat because that is the body that they have. And a little motivation and hard work isn’t going to make them thin and lean. They aren’t fat because they are lazy. They are fat because they are fat. The former lean girl who kinda let herself go is waging a completely different war than the obese child who is an adult now.

So, your article doesn’t make me think women need to stop saying they feel fat. That’s never going to stop. And sometimes they do feel fat. Sometimes I feel fat. But I believe it does make a point that most of the population doesn’t get. Sometimes fat is like bipolar, or color blind. It’s the hand a person has been dealt, and I for one thoroughly disapprove of presuming that they are fat because they lack discipline or desire.

I count myself lucky for having the genetics I do. And I’m proud of the 16+ years of hard work I’ve put into my build. As one coming from the opposite side of things, I can say coming to be okay with your build is a fantastic achievement. Be proud of that. I haven’t achieved that myself to be honest.