1,2,3 Overwhelm!
…the perfect way out of transformation
This is not going to take long. Simply put overwhelm is a strategy to avoid deep change, avoid being touched by life, avoid intimacy and avoid succeeding in any way. Overwhelm ensures you avoid taking responsibility for your life. Overwhelm is not the way to succeed in what your heart longs for, overwhelm is a strategy to make sure you do not get there, ever.
Why? Because, succeeding is a death threat to a part of you that is committed to not changing: Your survival mechanisms, the way you filter and navigate the world. Transformation is an essential part of succeeding. To get from where you are to where you want to be, you will need to go through transformation (otherwise you would already be there).
1Your Box was designed to enable you to navigate life and survive. It is elegant, sophisticated, and predictable. It has to be to make sure your world is reliable. This gives you a sense of identity and control in a universe that is meaningless, chaotic and ever changing. And, on a more practical note, when dealing with other humans who can be totally unpredictable, wildly colourful and, sometimes dangerous. This is especially important to a young, vulnerable child, which you were when you started to develop your Box.
You built your Box, you created the specific way of surviving, that works specifically for you. You built your box, AND you are not your box.
So, what about overwhelm?
2 Well, your box is committed to surviving at all costs. Which is why is works in close contact with another part of you called your Gremlin. This is a part of you that works fast, seamlessly and mostly you do not notice. Its sole purpose is to survive, it takes no responsibility and, as it is part of your underworld, it serves shadow purposes to make sure your box does not die. ..
Anyway, this is all profound, life changing stuff… but I said this would be short. So let’s get to overwhelm.
3 You are an amazing human being, you are creative beyond reason, you are designed to be filled with aliveness and life. To be deeply content, to move with Love and ecstatic creation. To be nourished by intimacy, while unfolding your fullest expression of yourself. In short, you are designed to succeed in all your heart led endeavours.
Is that the reality of the vast majority of the people you know?
Is that the reality for you?
4 Do you instead find yourself exhausted and saying things like: “It’s all too much, I have no idea where to start, I’m running in all these directions and nothing is working, mean while the toast is burning, 13 tabs are open on my lap and I haven’t washed my bedsheets since last month…”
This is very clever.
I am very familiar with overwhelm. I am experimenting with noticing how I create this. It goes something like this: I decide that something needs to change in my life. Rather than choosing one thing, like practising keeping my centre for one week. I instead decide “ok, this is it”, I open up all the tabs on my laptop, sign up to a training, start a flyer, a conversation, move house, start taking things to the op-shop and start a community…
Needless to say, instead of taking specific steps to make real change that actually created a different reality for myself. I instead expend all of that creative energy on making sure, I did not go Liquid enough for my Being to change shape. Instead I wake up one day exhausted and wiped out and still a victim of the big bad world.
5 What instead? Here is the experiment and an invitation to you also: Slow down, take all the time you need. Decide to do one thing and do it until it is done.
one thing.
choose it.
do it.
until it is done.
Then choose the next thing.
Overwhelm is the way out of transformation. It is the way to make sure nothing changes and that the same results will be repeated over and over again.
Transformation takes the time it takes. Overwhelm makes sure it does not happen. If you want any sort of change in your life, community or on this planet, take the time it takes, not the overwhelm.
(this is for you too, dear Millicent)
Love
Millicent
