There is this idea that the only way to turn down sex is by saying “Stop”. Men are conditioned to believe that as long as you don’t hear that ONE WORD IN THE ENTIRE ENGLISH LANGUAGE, it means that she’s just playing hard to get, and is looking for you to convince her. Which does happen, don’t get me wrong, but the signs for YES are much clearer than the signs for no. Unless the option of “no” is presented as a safe option, “yes” means nothing.
I’ve gained some powerful emotional powers (super powers) in what I’ve been calling my second life. Most all my deep-set hangups died with my first life. A number (but not all) of my grudges, entitled expectations, self-assumed responsibilities, judgements are simply gone. I have no FOMO. There isn’t an event I’ve heard of since I’ve recovered that I wish I would have been at. I’m simply content to be alive and living my life. I have no bucket list. Life is the bucket.