I’m not quite sure I follow. Are you saying that you can’t treat men and women equally, because men are threats to you while women are not? If so, there are a couple of problems with that worldview. First, of course, you shouldn’t need the threat of violence to treat other people with respect. And second, there are a lot of women who could put you on the ground if they so chose, and someday you may have the misfortune of meeting one. Why not just treat everyone like a potential threat?