What I wrote was:
It is presumed that when a woman becomes a mother, everything that used to define her as a person — her art, her hard work, her grit — is replaced with soft, lazy mommy-hood.
“It is presumed” is a pretty standard way of indicating a reference to other people’s arguments. Not to mention of course that I went on to argue that everything in that statement is wrong and harmful.
But if you didn’t get that, let me be clear now that this is the opposite of my view.