Why I am Wary of “Caregiverism”

Mirah Curzer
Jun 10, 2016 · Unlisted

Today the New York Times ran yet another article about how feminism shouldn’t devalue the choices of stay-at-home moms in its fight for equality. Which — ok, sure, fine.

But I have always been skeptical of this argument for another reason. Many (though not all) of the people making this argument are in fact closet sexists who think that women not only can but should stay home with children rather than having careers.

Like this:

For that reason, I think it is extremely important to inquire further of those making this argument. Are they saying something about choice, or something about women’s destiny to be wives and mothers?

Let’s make sure this argument is really motivated by feminism, and not sexism.

P.S. This is what I meant in my previous article about Socratic trolling — forcing people to reveal their true motives is a very important exercise.


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