I am not sure why you think this mostly happens to men but I can assure you that women experience this just the same. We play so many roles and we don’t just stop at adding on to them but we also continuously try to improve them. Always concerned that we are not performing each role to its best and wondering what else we can do to get better at it. Trying to be everything to everyone is a natural state of mind of us. The boxes in our heads are always buzzing, always interacting, always trying to connect. Like a 360 degree constantly revolving scanner, taking in as many data points as possible and analyzing them for the next anticipated need and then feverishly trying to solve for it before it occurs. A vigilante, saving the world one need at a time.

I have moments when my mind flashes to an old commercial I saw as a child but didn’t understand at the time…”Calgon, take me away”. These momentary flashes are like an out of body experience that adds fuel to my fire.

It seems to me that our goal is the same but our approach is different. It’s less about “me” and more about “we”. Maybe I should consider taking a page out of your book…