That last vacation day is here already? Here’s how to get enough of it (and life in general)
There are so many “lasts” in every lifetime.
The last light of the sun at the beach. The last day of university. The last spoon of that delicious coconut ice cream. The last hug before someone is gone forever…
Why do we put so much emphasize of these “lasts” letting them become the sentimental peak of an entire period?
Why not say “an incredibly sunny and relaxing vacation”, “3 amazing years of learning and growth”, “the best dessert in a while”, “life-enriching experience with a beautiful human being”?
My fear is that we appreciate what we have once it’s too late. Trying to squeeze the “lasts” can therefore be accompanied by unpleasant feelings and regrets: disappointment, sadness, unsatisfaction, pain.
So, how do we get enough of each last?
I’m sorry to disappoint you but there’s no way to get enough of any.
Did you get this right?
THERE IS NO WAY TO GET ENOUGH OF ANY LAST.
What happens when you attempt to get enough of a “last”?
You focus entirely on any minute of togetherness while comparisons of the present moment and the future lack cross your mind and stiffen you? Do you feel unhappy because of what you’re unable to continue enjoying? Do you express vulnerability by crying or strength by smiling?
All of these are possible and likely to happen all within the span of one powerful “last”.
However, irrespective of how we act in that last moment, it will never give us enough satisfaction to keep us charged long after it’s over.
This is why we must focus on any single moment and get as much as possible from it.
It takes conscious practice and repetition to remind yourself to be present. To be appreciative. To be grateful.
The daily routine of many successful people involves writing a list of things they are grateful for. Whether it’s the supermarket which prevents us from running out of food or the drivers who stop to let us cross the street, opening our minds to appreciate all that is around and happening to us is the way to live a fuller (non-lasts-fragmented) life.
Many fragments can be extended or more properly enjoyed with adequate care and treatment. Whether it’s switching off the mobile phone to pay attention to the taste of our food or communicating more and more openly with the people around us, we are responsible for creating higher quaility experiences.
Most often than not we take things and people for granted… until they aren’t.
In fact, they never are. We are just too selfish, lazy and unthankful.
Think about all your many “presents”. It doesn’t mean you won’t worry about their coming “lasts” and it certainly doesn’t mean you’ll get enough of them. But in the end, if you live all moments as they happen, you’ll have certainly gotten more.