FreakStrology: Understanding Your Sex Style with Astrology

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Sep 7, 2018 · 11 min read
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DISCLAIMER: An “astrology is deeper than you think” rant will ensue before I get to the nitty-gritty…you’ve been forewarned.

— I love astrology, among other occult and metaphysic subjects, however I digress. Over the years, I have found that astrology has the secrets to helping us successfully traverse through this life without having to veer off into the bullshit we sometimes succumb to out of sheer curiosity. At any rate, one of the most important ways I enjoy using my knowledge of astrology is within my sex life. While the majority of society would deem this “stupid” or “wrong” because, well, “you can’t tell this or that with just a sign”, I tend to know the depths in which astrology can go; opening up doors to many of the answers about ourselves that we never knew existed.

When people think of astrology (especially Western Astrology), they instantly think of their favorite, colorful section of the back of some popular magazine that shows zodiac signs with famous people attached to them. The horoscope will provide the customer with some generalized idea of what that particular Sun sign entails with some fun and witty caption to go along with it. Horoscopes are not the end-all-be-all when it comes to astrology. Astrology goes much deeper than your sun sign. YOU’RE much deeper and much more complex than just one sign. Just like every other aspect of human life, you can’t simply compartmentalize the experience which is…you. Think of yourself as the universe — that would entail a dark space, or vacuum, filled with stars, asteroids, and every planet within it. I say this to say, you have more than just the Sun that is connected to you. There is not only the Sun, but Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars, Uranus, Jupiter, Neptune, and Pluto — and those are just the planets.

Sure, Yes, I’m a Libra sun and what people instantly think about Libra is romance, beauty, love, and more love; however, you’re not going to get a drip or a drop from my pum-pum if you don’t know my Venus or Mars placement at least. For instance, although I’m a Libra sun, my Venus (how I am in relationships) is Virgo and my Mars (sexual vitality, assertiveness, and what I want in a man) is Scorpio. I love, love, don’t get me wrong, but I need someone who is mysterious and a very discreet lover. Someone who I can trust, be vulnerable with and share the deepest parts of myself, and who likes to do some very (undisclosed) things that only we know about. My passions run deep and they’re my secrets — and theirs, if they can pass the many tests that my Venus in Virgo will dish out (LOL Happy Birthday my Virgos!).

I want to take the parts that speak to our sexual nature, without getting too deep or too specific — we both know how frustrating it can be for the average person who just wants to find a free natal chart and get straight to sniffing out the particulars. And before I go further, just know, that it is always important to consult with a professional astrologer who can do a full synastry or composite chart that gives you a wider scope of your compatibility with your significant other.

I believe there are many aspects that play into your sexual nature, but specifically aspects that include Venus (planet of beauty, romance, love, and art), Mars (planet of aggression, assertiveness, desire, and passion), and Pluto (planet of sex, power, and death). Also, I think that sometimes they fail to mention Uranus (planet of rebellion, spontaneity, upheaval, and eccentricity). While Mars speaks to your sexual vitality and Venus talks of your receptivity to the sexual experience and the aesthetics, Uranus points to your unique style and individuality when it comes to sex. That is why [I can’t stress this enough] it is so important to get a thorough natal chart reading from a professional astrologer who can help navigate you through the process of knowing yourself a little more, especially when it comes to sex.

So, with no further ado, I’m going to take the 12 signs of the Zodiac and just drop some of my ideas as to what they may want in bed according to the Mars placements of the natal chart ( I’ll save the other planets for another article).

Aries:

When your Mars is in Aries, your sex is hot like fire and passionate! Mars is at home here. It rules the signs Aries and Scorpio, but because you’re the baby of the zodiac and selfish, I’ll just keep the focus on you, my dear rams.

You love to hit it from the back or what others simply call “doggy-style”, because, let’s face it: it’s all about conquering and dominating. If you’re a woman with this placement, you probably like positions where you are dominating your lover (i.e. playing out the fantasy of a domme with whips, chains, and cat o’nine tails). It’s all about reigning supreme and watching your lover submit to you like a peasant to a King/Queen. You’re energetic and a bit rough in bed and need a lover who can keep up with your rambunctious sex style. Either that, or you’re disappearing like the Houdini that you’re famous for being.

Taurus:

When your Mars is in the hedonistic sign of Taurus, your sex style is typically slow, steady, and sensual. Taurus is earthy — they’re ruled by Venus, ruler to Libra also. It’s important to note that Mars is frustrated here because he wants to take action, fast, and well, the sturdy bull is about moving as slow as possible because they’re stubborn.You, Mars in Taurus, could have sex the same way because you like consistency (this might bore some of your lovers of the air and fire persuasion).You expect sex to feel good in return as well, since you tend to equate anything good to how it appeals to your senses. So, if your lover is adding food into the equation, you’re all in!

Taurus is referred to as the “Daddy” or the “Momma” in their relationships, lavishing their lovers with the finest that money can buy. Taurus wants nothing more than to be pleased by their lover and in return will do the same ( lover got to go first though). Master Taurus is possessive and want their lover all to themselves so they’re not so quick to jump into a threesome unless they both belong to them. So, Taurus, if your lover can fulfill all of those checkpoints along with keeping up with your sexual appetite, they might be able to hold on to you.

Gemini:

When your Mars is in the witty sign of Cemini, you’re adaptable, forever a student, and a communicator. Being that you’re ruled by Mercury, you’re such a talker, that your words in the bedroom come off like a machine gun — full blast, hitting every target! Dirty Talk is your game so you probably spend long hours on the phone sexting (sex|texting) and are probably multi-lingual (bonus when seeking variety in your partners). You also love intellect and a good, healthy, conversation — healthy being three hours minimal. Because of this, you might just orgasm from phone sex!

Mars in Gemini lovers are very open and can adapt to any situation, including any sexual experience. You like for things to change up, constantly, and may stray from a lover if you don’t get that variety that you crave. Mars in Gemini folks might be the ones to engage in swinger type situations or orgies. You’re not afraid to try anything once (that is, if it peaks your interest — and even still…). I’d liken your stamina in the bedroom to two people — twice the fun.

Cancer:

Mars in Cancer may be the most emotional out of all the signs. There is a need for an emotional connection with your lover because it feels safe. Who doesn’t want that type of connection? However, feeling secure through an emotional connection doesn’t hide the fact you enjoy sex. You might want to beautify your home and make a home-cooked meal for your partner before you hit the sack with them. You’re nurturing and will smother your lover with hugs and kisses. It’s your motherly instincts since you’re ruled by the Moon. For some of you, you’re very submissive and enjoy pleasing your partner. I find that Mars in Cancer men are definitely into breasts (Moon/Mother/Nurture). Also, Mars in Cancer has a reputation for giving great oral pleasure (it’s true). You’re so generous…

Leo:

The lovable lion, Mars in Leo, wants the spotlight in the bedroom (queue up dramatic drum roll). From my experience and what I know about them, Leos love attention. They’re all for a big entrance because of their regal nature. After all, they’re the kings/queens of the jungle. If it’s not about them, then why even bother…right? Leo is the main attraction and their lover needs to be the audience, fully engaged in their dramatic antics in the bedroom. They crave the spotlight so much, they may even be willing to put on a performance in front of the camera so they can relive that moment over and over again. Like the other fire signs, they’re very passionate, energetic, and come on strong during sex. A romantic and drama-filled love scene, with a California king-size bed decorated with the finest silk, and rose petals left behind them as they crawl toward their partner, is a win!

Virgo:

Honestly, Mars is the least sexy in the Mercury-ruled sign of Virgo. Virgo wants to service you but you might go through some nagging and nick-picking along the way. They might be the ones to take you to the clinic and even after that, do a thorough examination of their own just to make sure the doctor covered all possibilities. When balanced, however, nothing pleases Virgo more than to give their partner the treatment they deserve.

You, Mars in Virgo, might be too focused on detail or perfection, but you just want to make sure you have a satisfied customer. You know what it takes to get them off — you carefully researched it and have methodically came up with ideas to go about it. People tend to underestimate you when it comes to sex because of your need for perfection and your constant nagging, but you do your thing — in your own way. You like anilingus (eating booty) or like having it done to you. Something about shining up one of the most sacred places on the body, is a turn on for you. You’re also that sexy teacher that has a few lessons to give that pupil who just can’t stay away from the dunce corner. However, you’re also a submissive, a good little housewife or house hubby, that is going to take care of all the wifely/hubby duties (washing walls, cleaning bathrooms, folding clothes, and vacuuming)before bae gives you permission to come get at them!

Libra:

Lovey-dovey, Mars in Libra wants to be pampered and romanced in the bedroom. This sign wants red candles, soft music, rose petal-induced bubble baths, and back rubs with warm scented oils. Like the Mercury-ruled sign Virgo, your partner’s wants are what matter before your own. Mars is also not that happy in the sign of Libra because Mars wants to get into action and Venus-ruled Libra wants to take it slow. You’re a gentle lover and love beautiful surroundings — especially during sex. You want your sexual experience to be romantic, harmonious, and serene. Libra, the scales, is about balance, justice, and fairness. If your sex life is devoid of any of your key components, your lover might see your scales tipped — this is when your dark side comes to light.

Other than that, Mars in Libra folks are as classy as a presidential ballroom. They would rather speak sweet nothings in your ear, initiate foreplay (get out the strawberries, chocolate syrup, and whip-cream), and dance to a Marvin Gaye song than choke you — that’s Scorpio’s job.

Scorpio:

Speaking of Mars in Scorpio, as I mentioned earlier about myself, your passion runs deep like an abyss! Like your water sign sibling, Cancer, you want that deep, soulful, connection with your partner. You’re moved by mystery and want to search all parts of the body, mind, and the soul. You get off on power plays so you’re into control…scratch that…you love control. Power plays are your thing, so you’re the type to switch between dom (dominant) and sub (submissive), swinging from tying up your partner to being tied up by your partner. You can go deep and dark when it comes to sex — there’s no limit to your sexual desires. Depending on what aspects your Mars will determine how some of your sexual fetishes manifest. If your Mars in Scorpio placement falls in your 11th house of your natal chart, you could be into some intense, sexual, experiences with groups (threesomes) and with friends.

Sagittarius:

Wherever the archer points his/her arrow, the archer is there with the quickness. Mars in Sagittarius is a jet-setter — adventures and new exciting experiences that they haven’t tried yet is essential to their being. This Jupiter-ruled sign loves exploring new terrain and avoiding restrictions is the game. They want to be free; anything less is suffocating and boring. If you have this placement in your natal chart, screwing during mid-hiking on a camping trip in nature or picking up some random, exotic, stranger during a trip to Bali would suffice. You swing from partner to partner like a pendulum and if allowed, you’d have them all together for one big sex sandwich (if that is even a thing).You’re the most fun out of the Mars signs, wanting pleasure through random locations, positions, and even partners. It’s hard to pin you down, unless you’re trying out the handcuffs in the bedroom.

Capricorn:

Mars in Capricorn is a conservative workaholic. The Saturn-ruled sign is about putting in work and doesn’t have time for anybody’s games. Either you’re going to sex them or you’re not. Oh, and another thing: Cappy doesn’t share their sex life — they’re private unlike Leo, who wants the world to know how they put it down in the bedroom.

It takes you, Cappy, a minute to warm up to sex in the bedroom with a lover, however, once you’re comfortable, your lover can expect long-lasting pleasure. You’re goal-oriented in the workforce and the same can be applied to the bedroom. You take much pride in getting your partner off and seeing them orgasm from the work you put in. Because you’re a boss/boss lady, you prefer sexual scenarios that incorporate power and control (i.e. fetishes that inflict pain and showcase dominance through disciplinary acts). You may have a lifestyle that forces you to put the hammer down on employees but when you come home to your bedroom, you want your lover to put the hammer down on you (or vice versa)!

Aquarius:

Mars in the Uranus-ruled Aquarius is a freak and doesn’t care if you know. They’re rebellious and probably wouldn’t mind doing something with their sex partner that defies all laws. Meaning, if there is a law that says there is “no entrance after sunset”, trust they will convince their honey to enter with no qualms about getting caught. Aquarius loves technology, so you might find them in a sexual encounter that involves computers (i.e. virtual reality) or animated porn like Hentai. And this isn’t to say that Aquarius is so detached that they’re not interested in the closeness of another human being, it’s just that I wouldn’t be surprised if this sign fully supported every household having one of those new sex androids that do your every bidding. They love anything eccentric or different that sets them apart, especially in their sex lives. They may be the ones to try furry sex (sex where you’re dressed as an anthropomorphic animal).

Pisces:

Oh, so, dreamy, Neptune-ruled Mars in Pisces wants sex to be romantic and magical like a fairy-tale. Your sexual appetite is connected to your emotional side like Cancer. You want someone you can have that deep, spiritual connection with and could daydream for hours on end. You’re a hopeless romantic (like Libra) and while this is true, you’re also a freak. You are open to doing whatever with your lover. You value imagination and utilize it often during your sexual pursuits. You can change wigs, outfits, and backdrops often to create whatever environment that’s conducive to your current sexual soiree. You’re the submissive type, so you could definitely get into role playing (i.e. the BRAT).

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