There have been many times in my life when I’ve had to stop myself and reevaluate everything.

It’s those moments when I start getting frustrated, upset, unmotivated- when I stop living and I feel like I’m just going through the motions.

My mind goes from happy thoughts to negativity and I start comparing myself to others or worse yet, put others down for the way they live their life.

It’s then when I have to stop and ask myself- why?

Why am I so upset?

Why do I feel the need to put anyone down?

Why can’t I just be happy?

The answer to all these questions can be found in my motivation- or lack of.

I notice my negativity creeps in when I lose focus on what makes me tick- when I don’t take time every day to pursue my passions.

After all, if you don’t have something to live for, what’s the point?

Luckily for me, I have reminders every day of exactly what in my life truly makes me happy, what matters to me-

Raising my daughter and watching her develop into a decent human being, that’s a big one.

Writing, there’s another.

Music, and another.

Helping others and fighting for social causes- all these things give me purpose, all these things give me life.

These things are my motivation. When I take a little time every day for these activities, it gives my life meaning and I feel a greater overall feeling of positivity.

It’s not just about working that 9–5, going through the motions, and trudging through your day. When you’re able to find the reasons for why you truly live — it makes all the other mundane moments in your life more bearable. When you spend those extra hours in the office or pull that all nighter to finish your paper- give yourself a reminder of what you are working for and push yourself!

Motivation is different for everyone, what makes me tick might not work for you, but that’s what makes us all individuals.

How I define happiness might be completely different than how you see it, and that’s okay!

Do what works for you, write down your motivators and engage in them every day- I promise it’ll make a difference.

Don’t bog yourself down with worries by comparing yourself to others. Instead, appreciate the beauty in our differences and in the way we see our world.

Sometimes we need that reminder that at the end of the day, we all just want to be happy.

Life’s short- so find your motivation and go for it!

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