Mister Alighieri
Aug 28, 2017 · 2 min read

She is every bit as equal to him, if he wants to just sleep with her, she might agree to it if she finds him attractive too. What is the reason for such a charade when honesty is all that is required here?

Because honest doesn’t succeed. Most women want to be wooed enough to ease the feelings of incrimination that the “Whore” dichotomy brings. If a man walked up to a woman in a bar and said “You are very attractive, let go have sex” very few times would that ever work. However if he spends some time chatting, making her laugh and easing her feelings, then she is more inclined to sex. Not all women of course need this placating. Some women will have no strings attached sex with men, but they are few.

dudes are our problematic faves

Exactly. The guys who don’t treat women all like precious dolls, made for a pedestal are often the guys that women want. The bad boy, the player, the serial cheater, the charismatic loser are all men that women want. Maybe these are not the men they settle down with, but they are the ones they date until then.

And slowly but surely, it will be the toxic, misogynistic self-styled “alpha” males who will end up very miserable and very unwanted.

Not likely. These “toxic, misogynistic, Alpha males” are almost never without women around them. Might they end up miserable and unwanted? Possibly but more often than not, as age sets in and the player lifestyle gets old They find a woman that is still charmed by their ways and they fall into a relationship with them. Or they simply keep a string of women around who still look for this type man. There are plenty of women that will happily settle for being the favorite of an Alpha man even if she knows that position is precarious.

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