Why We Fight to End the Man Box
Mark Greene
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We need to create a world where being a man can mean being anything.

This falls into the “If everything is art then nothing is art.”

But immediately the author then says that men are already everything.

Men are already everything you can possibly imagine, across any spectrum you can name, gender, race, sexuality, politics, spirituality, or society.

So could it possibly be that there is no “Man box?” And men can be or do anything they like? Maybe some men prefer stoicism to gregariousness.

The man box is an interesting concept.

  1. Real men don’t show their emotions (Anger, yes, but little else.)

Seems that testosterone might be part of the reason for this.

2) Real men are always confident. They make all the decisions.

Men are often at least outwardly confident. And men do tend to be decisive, but again that pesky hormone testosterone seems to have a role.

http://www.caltech.edu/news/testosterone-makes-men-less-likely-question-their-impulses-55864

3) Real men are providers not care givers.

This is linked to the competitive nature that is part of testosterone's role.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-athletes-way/201310/testosterone-fuels-both-competition-and-protectiveness

4) Real men are heterosexual and sexually dominant.

95% of people are heterosexual.

http://www.gallup.com/poll/201731/lgbt-identification-rises.aspx

And sexual dominance again is a marker of higher testosterone.

As regards gender and tendencies toward dominance, it’s generally believed that men strive for dominance and control mostly because of their higher testosterone levels. Surely, it’s significant here that women who are given testosterone supplements not only reveal increased sex drive, but also more aggressiveness, greater willingness to start fights, and less aversion toward taking risks.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/201206/dominant-or-submissive-paradox-power-in-sexual-relations
5) Real men continuously talk and play sports.

This is just a stretch. Plenty of men have no interest in sports and are still considered real men. The problem is that many of our modern “heroes” are sports figures now.

6) Real men are never handicapped, disabled or unemployed.

That would be news to the men who have been handicapped in war or jobs. Men can also be unemployed, though they will suffer poverty which will erode their self worth if they are without income.

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