I agree with you. Harsh, but sometimes harsh is warranted. This may be the case, it definitely felt warranted to me in this case.
We can all argue about your tone, but that’s too subjective a topic for me to debate regardless of my position on your tone.
All that being said, I remember when I was 14 and one of my favorite cousins called me a dick. I’ll never forget it. He and I are still best buddies to this day and I remember when he says it that he has no malice in his tone. We weren’t fighting, we were playing and he clearly had been thinking about it for a while. He felt as a good friend, that it was important for me to recognize my poor behaviour. Well I did and it rebooted my whole thought process.
Kris, if she reads and really heard what you are saying this will be day/week/month to remember. It’ll be the last time she is a victim and the last time she bemoans her situation like she did here.
I hope for her sake, that she reads your comment over and over and understands clearly that you are not being mean, that you are not calling her out or trying to humiliate her, but educate her. She needs to appreciate like I do today that you took the time, to help her with absolutely nothing to gain.
There are no awards for participation in life.