Such a beautiful piece of writing and something I need to read as lately the concept of cognitive dissonance is pretty prominent in my dating life. I think when it comes to love it’s hard to not get defensive and start blaming connections that could have possibly turned out to be something more if things hadn’t been broken off. This is def a mature way of looking at things when they don’t work out but majority of the relationships end on a bitter note so it’s challenging to see them through this lens early on but usually this sets in after a while. But just reading this and being aware of it will make it easier for me to learn how to let go peacefully which is the most important thing. Thank you for writing this.