Believe In The Power of You
We’ve all been there before. We’ve all looked in the mirror, barely recognizing the face staring back at us and asked “How did I get here? When did my life get off track? What did I do to deserve this?”
We’ve all wished for something better. And we’ve all vowed to make that change that will improve our lives and steer us back on track.
And we’ve all marched on. Doing the same things that we’ve always done. Hoping. Wishing. Waiting. Dreaming of a better tomorrow. Unhappy with our current situation. Afraid of changing.
Change might not be fast and it isn’t always easy. But with time and effort, almost any habit can be reshaped. — The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg
There are several factors at play when trying to change something…change anything. Losing weight, gaining weight (in my case), eating healthier, learning a new discipline, switching careers. Anything.
Progress takes time and it takes discipline. There is one other critical factor that is often overlooked when taking on a new challenge.
Belief that you can change.
Belief that words like ‘cannot’, ‘quit’, ‘unable’, ‘impossible’, ‘failure’, ‘hopeless’, and so on are not possibilities. Belief that they are not even realities.
If you believe you can change — if you make it a habit — the change becomes real. — The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg
Let’s say you’re trying to gain weight and put on muscle. What do you do? Go out and buy a new pair of Nikes and maybe some new gym clothes? Find a workout program on Bodybuilding.com? Look for diet programs that will help you achieve your goal? Start going to the gym? Check. Check. Check. Check.
Fast forward a couple of weeks. You’ve been doing everything to the tee. Going to the gym each day and rocking your new Nikes. Eating what you presume is correct. Weighing yourself daily. Waiting for the day when you see continual change in the scale. But what happens? It never comes.
Enter the self-doubt. Enter the negative talk inside your head. At the beginning, before you started, your belief was through the roof. “I’m going to accomplish it. I know I will and I know I can.” Or maybe it wasn’t even a factor. It wasn’t strong, but there also wasn’t self-doubt. You figured you would just start and the rest would take care of itself.
A couple of weeks later, the progress is hard to measure and the frustration begins. You start thinking that maybe this is just the way you are. That no matter how hard you try, things won’t change.
We’re always so eager to start something new. And, sadly, almost as eager to cease that new activity when change or progress doesn’t occur as quickly as we want.
The reason we lose commitment and the reason we ignore the overall time change takes (which is a long time), is because we lose the belief that we can accomplish whatever it is that we’ve set out for.
Actively working towards change or establishing a new habit is just as important as establishing the mental resiliency to achieve our goal.
This can be done a number of ways. For me, right now, it’s reading The Greatest Salesman in the World by Og Mandino.
If you’re unfamiliar with the work, there are 10 “scrolls” or chapters of a couple pages each. You are to read only one scroll at once, 3x’s a day, for one month. Then move on to the next scroll.
Rinse and repeat.
Each scroll has a lesson that helps you develop mental resiliency and a new way of thinking. As you develop the habit, you are also developing the resiliency, which I have found helpful. It helps to reframe your mind to realize that when things take time, that’s not a bad thing.
It’s the natural progression.
Learn to appreciate the journey more than the destination.