Good points — I like the examples on how to make things concrete.
The dynamics of being a principal engineer are a bit different but your advice is valuable there as well. As I deal with team members and my management chain I’ve had good results framing a conversation around “what would you like to see me do more of? what would you like me to do less of?”
It is still open-ended, so I can improve by using concrete examples. But it takes the conversation in a direction of working on balance together and makes it ok to give me comments.