Suggestions — No matter your age, you can feel irrelevant, at work, in relationships, in general. As usual, there are no magic pills, but if you care to be more relevant to the world or just in your sphere of influence, you might try one or more of these: At work How about proposing…

Having been career coach to more than 6,000 clients, I’ve reluctantly concluded that the standard approach to choosing a career — Choose a career that matches your abilities, interests, and values — -in the real world of career seekers, too often fails. It can fail for a number of reasons: …

My best suggestions on career, relationships, money, and the meaning of life. — I’ve written so much on this topic and wonder it might be particularly helpful to offer just the suggestions I believe most potent and not obvious. Here goes. Career. I could write a tome on why the following is true, but because I’ve promised to be minimalist here, I just…

People often ask me how I accomplish so much while also having a good long-term marriage. Here are what I believe are my most potent tips. Mindset If you remember only one thing from this article, it’s Make every second count. Do what’s important. and Ever be thinking, “Is there…

After age 50 and especially 60, we may lament our declining memory, admitting that we suffer from CRS: Can’t remember shit. We all know that it helps to write things down but a few tips can help make the most of that writing. Most people will want to use an…

When people learn that my wife and I live in separate homes, the reaction is usually jealousy, incredulity, or both. Their most common questions: Why do you do it? It allows us freedom while retaining connection. It’s the same reason that people date but don’t live together. An ancillary reason…

We’re often urged to practice acceptance, gratitude, and to be in the moment. It’s too easy to accept or to reject those reflexively. To encourage a more reflective decision, here are some pros and cons of each: Acceptance Pros: Acceptance reduces excessive stress and striving. Let’s say you’re afraid of…

As I look back on my 6,000 career counseling clients, I have reluctantly concluded that my efforts could have been better spent. Let me explain. Career counselors mainly do two things: Help people find well-suited careers That is done using some combination of client self-report, counselor questions, assignments to read…

I like being negative, even though the norm is to emphasize the positive, except maybe about Putin or Republicans. Here’s why I tend to be negative. You get to think. We all like to use what we’re naturally good at. I can’t draw nor fix things but I can reason…