Hello friends, family, peers, and fans. This article is a little more of a rant today, so bear with me. Let’s get started.

Trip to Providence with two of my best friends from CCSU

As many of you know, I’m a sophomore at Central Connecticut State University. During my time so far in college, I have experienced a lot of personal growth and change. I’ll talk about this a whole lot more in the future with my college experiences, but lets just say I definitely took my first semester for granted. I did fine in school. I had a 3.14 gpa to start and I was singing A Cappella.

But one of the things I wish I could’ve done a lot less of, as you probably could have guessed, is going out and partying. Like the majority of young, immature, crazy freshman, I finally had the freedom to do what I want. And I wanted to fit in socially, so of course I did what seemed every “cool” person was doing. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that going out with friends is wrong, because it isn’t. However, I do believe based off of what I’m seeing on my own campus and from people I’ve personally talked to that a lot of people are simply not happy. It seems like every other person I know now has depression and/or a form of anxiety. I’m not saying its anybody’s fault. And in no way am I a doctor or a psychologist.

One of Gary Vaynerchuck’s best quotes

My question for people is whether they’re happy for the most part or really down in the dumps. What are you doing with your life? How have you grown recently or the past two years? Are you just getting by in your classes and going out? Or are you reading, learning, growing, exercising, or meditating? Think about it people. Would you rather be a guy who is working a basic job that perhaps pays 45,000–65,000 dollars when you get out of school? Or would you rather build a legacy? A legacy where you are remembered as being a leader, legend, and an inspiration. A Tony Robbins, Mark Cuban, Gary Vaynerchuk, or Tim Ferris, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates. If you don’t know all those names, then you know there is an issue. People in today’s society are filling their egos with decent grades, material possessions, alcohol, and silly reality tv show stars. Obviously these are two very opposite spectrums. There are a lot of people who are in the middle. If you are 100% happy with where you are in life and everything you’re doing is totally okay with you, then no worries. You have found yourself. For others though who are still trying to figure it out, let me give you some advice. Even if you have made many mistakes, quit many things, and just haven’t lived a happy life. Screw all of that right now. If you want to make a change, make a change. Many ask “where do I start”? I will give you a very basic task to do for yourself.

Tony Robbins one of the most famous entrepreneurs of all time

1. Grab a note book and a pen

2. Write down the best 5 things you have done in your life. Whether it is something you did for someone else or for yourself.

3. Now do the same thing for the negative. 5 things.

4. Now, you know of somethings you’re proud of, and you also know somethings that you may be horrified of thinking about. Write 5 things that you want to happen within the next 3 months, next year, next 5 years, next 10 years, next 20 years, next 30 years, next 40 years, and even the next 50 years. These can be accomplishments, goals, tasks, weight, mental health, anything. If you can’t write 5 for each time period, then write 3.

5. Now that you know what you want to do in X amount of time, it’s time to brainstorm how you’re going to about doing these things. It’s okay not to know all the answers. Just think of what things you could change. An example could be instead of going out Thursday, Friday, and Saturday, only go out Friday. It’s the little things that can make all the difference in your life. And when you do a new little thing every week, month, year, to better yourself, it is still progress in the right direction where you can become the strongest version of yourself.

Here is a bonus to what has just been said. As Tony Robbins says, “Change your expectations with appreciation and your life will change forever”. It couldn’t be more true. I know while I pursue to build the biggest personal brand, business, empire, and healthiest/happiest version of myself, there are going to be bumps on the road where I might even go backwards. But as they say, “It ain’t about how hard you hit, its about how many times you get hit and keep moving forward”. Live by this lifestyle/philosophy alone, and it will make a huge difference in your fitness, grades, job, business, happiness, mental health, etc. No matter what DO NOT GIVE UP… Much love! — Duke E. Large (Founder of Moby Dook Inc.)