Self acceptance and self trust
The two terms y’all seeing are very similar , the fact that the majority of people are having lack of self confidence and lack of self acceptance, which brings us to the most popular quitting term “ I can’t “
Under which circumstances people are facing that pushed them to quite and say i can’t ??
Now if we want to state the reasons why the “ I can’t “ thingy is very common between people with lack of self trust and acceptance, we have to start based on personal experience. In another meaning,we should start from ourselves and see if we can relate to others.
I’ll start with myself and share a few facts that made me write this article.
I faced so many circumstances that made me question myself and start doubting my decisions, which have lead me to shut myself down and cut all strings attached between me and the world. I started to have fears of rejection and skills underesttimating behavior from other people, because i was different than others ( and still different but that’s a whole other me),and when people lays eyes on a person who’s not like them,he’s instantly secluded from their clicks.
Such thing as that is the first stimulater of losing self acceptance and to lose confidence,which i did at that time, I’ve lost it all,in a way that i lost trust in everyone even myself , due to the reality I’ve started living.
The walking dead, it was my nick name after hitting rock bottom, my body was alive, but what’s a use of an alive body with a dead soul, a soul murdered by stress,anxiety,to much thinking……etc
I accepted my self being back then , i was on the edge of quitting and say i can’t,suddenly, while i was sinking in my own ocean of fear , as cheesy as it might be considered by some people, a strange voice said “why quitting?is that you,the REAL you? Because it ain’t the Mohamed i know, the stress free, careless, fun seeker and adrenaline rush addict. Who done this to you? What made you become like this ?” I kept listening to the voice, I mean what else i had to do, other than sitting all day doing nothing. Actually ,that voice was me trying to fight back, trying to get myself back together.
The things I’ve done to fight back .
In fact , there are so many things to do in order to get yourself together, it changes from a person to another. It can be reading books, meeting new people , going to new places… and the list goes on,when comes to me what worked for me and to work for others is to see motivational videos of various motivational speakers. Why so, because those motivational speakers were just like us, they faced alot and even more tougher situations than us.
I started working out as well, home,gym,it doesn’t matter where,but what’s important is to find an outdoor or indoor activity that you’re comfortable for. Why doing so? I did it for the peaceful state of being that working out gives me, the satisfaction, the gratitude for being alive and healthy. I reached a level where i can’t live without working out, without exercising my body and instantly rebooting my brain and cleaning it from negative thoughts , feelings and emotions. Whenever i don’t, shit hell happens all over again.
I tried and still do to surround myself with positive people, that motivates and encourage each other, tried and still do to build an environment full of positivity ,creativity and ambitious souls .
What does all this has to do with self acceptance and trust ?
When someone with low self esteem and no acceptance to his own self starts a life changing experience where he begins to discover his true self,the same self that was inside waiting to come out and force it’s presence,he start to accept himself as he is, not like before, he start to accept all the details about him,big or small,the ones he had already and the ones he gained.
After he starts to accept himself, the very same person start to build self confidence, initiate the process that boosts it and then he’s fully changed to a whole different person ( this is the difference in me that i talked about earlier).
As a conclusion, in order to gain more self confidence and start to accept yourself more, believe in yourself and believe in the fact that everything is possible, “where the minds think to reach,the body will definitely follow”