Story of a Mentor
Mentoring is a brain to pick, an ear to listen and push in the right direction and mentoring is two way street, we get out what we put in. A mentor is someone who allows us to see the hope inside ourselves. A mentor is someone who allows us to know that no matter how dark the night, in the morning the joy will come. A mentor is someone who allows us that we see the higher part of ourselves when sometimes it becomes hidden to our own view.
My Teacher Usman Ghani are my super mentor as they always support and encourage me in adversities, disappointments and failures. He always talk about mentoring principles with us in class that are as follows;
- Strive for mutual benefits. The relationship should be defined from the beginning as mutually beneficial. Each participant has committed to the relationship by choice. Each should openly share his or her goals for the relationship and work collaboratively to help achieve them.
- Agree on confidentiality. Maintaining an environment of confidentiality is a critical component in building trust between the participants. Without a mutually understood ability to speak freely as the situation warrants, the relationship is unlikely to reach its full potential.
- Commit to honesty. The participants should be willing to candidly share what they expect to gain from the relationship and their vision for getting there. They should be prepared to offer frank feedback as appropriate, even if the feedback is critical.
- Listen and learn. Mutual benefit and honesty can only be achieved when both members feel their viewpoints are heard and respected. Mentors, especially, need to remember that the relationship is not primarily about them. Co-mentors should not be intimidated or made to feel their views are not valued.
- Build a working partnership. Consider structuring a working partnership that includes project consultation or active collaborations rooted in the common ground of shared professional goals. These collaborations can lead to discoveries about each participant’s preferred working style, daily obligations, and professional aspirations.
- Lead by example. Actions create the most lasting impression.
- Be flexible. It might help for a mentoring relationship to have defined goals, but the process may be as important — or more so — than the goals.
Mentor-ship represents an individual commitment to seeking out, identifying, and developing in a variety of ways the leaders of the future people who have the creativity, the intellect, the conceptual skills, and the personal qualities necessary to provide true transformational leadership in the challenging, ever-changing, and fluid environment of contemporary higher education.