Dealing with Anger Issues?
Anger is a part of human and its completely okay to feel angry, because its your own feeling. You cant change the way you feel. The thing is, you need to remember that you are the in-charge of your feelings and need to learn how to express your anger/feelings in a helpful ways.
Sparked by a variety of things,
- People
- Events
- Memories
- Disappointment, jealously and Fear (I do get jealous if someone flirts with my crush :P )
Key to reduce anger is need to have complete control on yourself and understanding the situation/opposite person's perspective.
Before blowing up ask yourself,
- Is your reaction needed to solve/settle the issue? Or you can walk way(sometimes this is the best).
- First listen them completely, mention that you agree their opinion(satisfies them) and then make your point crystal clear.
- Before making your point, Are they matured enough to understand your point, generally people listens to reply instead of understanding.
- Remember, no need of reaction for every situation, just let it go. You know who you are..no need of explanation.
- Most importantly, you cant argue with a fool. So its completely okay to let it go.
- I know maintaining calmness in that situation is tough but if you start then definitely you will master it.
- Evaluate all the possible solutions, pick one and apply, if you think there is no solution and let it go. All you have to do for any situation is THINK. Just take time and think.
- For this reason all the philosophers say dont take any decision when you are angry because you will do things without thinking and you will end up doing some stupid.
Anger can be positive emotional force, wonder how? It comes down the way you thinks,
Turn your anger into pain, and pain to motivation, this will surely leads to new version of yourself, because if you are motivated, your thoughts will always be on your goal, how minor that might be, from starting a sport or waking up early on weekends(its on my to-do list :P) to major goals, cracking CAT, start-up company or business(mine is to start a restaurant in a beach) to entry in bollywood(yeah , on my list :P...not really),
They say, “if you firmly believe to achieve something, then universe will make happens for you”,
ever wonder why? Reason is, you will not leave a single possibility which makes you near your wish. You will try all the permutations and combinations.
In this mean process, if you are making mistakes, learn from them rather than angry. In my view, anger is absence of the thinking, ask yourself is this gonna worthy to take stress?
Have you ever took 15minutes from your busy life and spent sometime for yourselves. It might be, sipping coffee alone sitting by the window(For god sake don't take your mobile phone). Try once and trust me you will feel good. Start feeling good about learning yourselves

Points to remember:
Never reply, when you are angry. Later it leads to disappointment(In most cases)
Beware, never get angry with a man, who has nothing to lose.
You dont need to hold on anger, find ways to let go, look for someone to discuss your feelings/anger, express things which causing you anger.
Learn to forgive. Its not easy as we say, it takes lot of courage.
Strong man is not one who can fight but one who can control his temper when angry. Anyone can be polite to a King, it takes gentleman/Lady to be polite event to a beggar.
And here comes my favourite part,
Aristotle's challenge
"Anyone can become angry -- that is easy,
But to be angry
- With the right person
- To the right degree
- At the right time
- For the right purpose and
- In the right way....
---- this is not easy."
I do certainly follow this, if i ever angry to you, it means you are something to me :)
NOBODY SHOULD MAKE YOU ANGRY WITHOUR YOUR CONSENT
