Don’t let a previous heartbreak hold you back.

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I hate TikTok, not because it’s a bad app, no it’s a great app, beneficial for creating entertaining videos. I hate it because it reminds me of how single I am. The most recent trend featured couples accidentally hitting bags over each other’s faces in the car. Hilarious. But painful.

I belonged to a niche category of hopeless idiots that wanted to be in a relationship but were hesitating because there is a 95% chance it’s the wrong choice. …

Failure often becomes a really good parent.

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I consider my father a failure, and it’s not because he left me to go to the shops, never to return.

Nor was it because he was abusive.

Itself because he was there and not there at the same time. He was the head of the traditional household unit, but the family was crumbling apart under his leadership.

We were a family only name, because, in reality, we were like strangers to each other. Distant and apart from everyone.

But in his failings, I learned valuable lessons that would help me to become a better man than him and, hopefully…

How not to be confused by the two.

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You want to change, right? That’s good; the first step in evolving yourself is to acknowledge you wish to change. It, however, is a lie when they tell you acknowledgment is the hardest part. Accepting is the easy part; getting to change is the hardest part.

But how does a person, what consists of changing? Well, there are two things:

  1. Consistency
  2. Self belief

That is the rocket science of change, the problem solved, the pandora’s box opened. However, most people like myself, get confused when someone tells us to change. …

The answer lies within what you want out of them.

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Why are most people attracted to positive people in life. It’s because of the positive and good feeling they get out of them.

What does positivity bring? It brings:

  1. Confidence
  2. Reliability
  3. Calmness
  4. Determination
  5. Willpower

Notice what these things are? They are all internal qualities that help you get through a challenging situation or circumstance.

For example, you go through a family member’s death. Tragic. What confidence does is that it instills in you the guarantee that you will get through this difficult time.

Your manager gave you the workload you think it’s too much for you, you start to panic…

The first thing is not to dwell too much on it.

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Since I can remember, I’ve dug graves for myself so much that I began to be called a grave digger.

I opened boxes that don’t need to be opened, answered questions that didn’t need an answer, and through it all. It’s messed up my relationships and ability to interact with people.

Making mistakes is one thing; digging your own grave is another. The former is an example of naivety; the latter is an example of arrogance, pride, and greed.

If that sounds familiar to you, then you know your overcome by a cold, distant feeling as you adjust your position…

Stop trying to find faults that don’t need to be called out.

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I looked at him, he had the same skin, same hair, but he had a six-pack, and I didn’t.

I looked another guy, different skin, different hair, same species. He had toned legs while I was disappointed with my chicken legs.

I couldn’t find a single fault within those two Instagram models, but when I looked into the mirror, I saw God’s mistakes.

When I looked into the mirror, I had the same reaction as the Isolated Biami People.

An eerie reflection of terror.

Why were they so perfect and I wasn’t. …

Achieving mental fortitude is key to be happy in life.

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WHO reports that globally 264 million people suffer from depression.

Suicide, which is the result of depression leads to 800,000 deaths per year.

Suicide is also the second leading cause of death for ages between 15-29.

76% to 85% of people residing in middle to low-income countries don’t receive any treatment for a mental disorder.

Why am I telling you all this?

It’s because I’m speechless at how our minds are our killers. In our moment of weakness, the mental defenses crumble, and the ‘thought demons’ — as my sister puts it — invade our subconscious and influence us.


Stop being stuck in the future.

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Do you often find yourself stuck in the future? Anticipate a situation you’ll find yourself in when the clock accelerates.

Your mind focused, each cerebral cortex fixed to survive the inevitable circumstance you’ll find yourself in, that you forget you have a life right now.

You’re not present right now.

Do you think I’m wrong?

Prove me right.

Our minds think alike; we always think ahead to anticipate the inevitable.

You, me, and the other guy have conditioned ourselves to think ahead — always staying ahead of the curve.

The curve straightens, we straighten. The curve goes faster, we go…

I wore so many faces, I didn’t know which was me.

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I wanted to be cool, popular, wanted the world to know who I was. A delusional kid who thought if he copied who everyone else was, he could become that. I was under the fallacy that I could become other people because ‘what I was’ wasn’t good enough, my true nature wasn’t ‘true’ enough.

I wanted to be cool, popular, wanted the world to know who I was. A delusional kid who thought if he copied who everyone else was, he could become that. …

Picking yourself up has never felt so good.

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I don’t go to the gym like the 9.7 million people in the country who do, or at least I used until I found that It was more productive to work out with my own body weight/ Calisthenics to be more productive and build a better body.

I am a lazy person who hates the arduous Journey to the gym. On some days, it becomes a trek, like when your parents narrate you of how they walked mountains and oceans to go to school.

So I took up Calisthenics, but you’re probably…


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